Today I would like to address the humble brag and all those that use it knowingly and unknowingly.
Yesterday a friend said something along the lines of ‘Oh yeah I got head hunted yesterday but I don’t think I’m going to take the job.’
Firstly, never just drop information like that into a conversation! We were having a conversation about general work happenings from the past couple of weeks, and then that bomb dropped. Do not try and force it into conversation if it doesn’t fit in with the general tone! Your ‘oh yeah’ fake nonchalant attitude is not fooling anyone.
Secondly, it makes you look like an asshole. Seriously. No one is genuinely humble when they’re trying to make themselves look good. If you want to talk about something you’re proud of, be open about it! Do not conceal your bragging with fake humility, people can see through it! Nobody likes a show off.
Thirdly, how important is this information? Not very, right? In this case an employer took an interest in your profile, but you’re not doing anything about it… so your point is? Not to be offensive to said friend but what kind of response did you want me to have? Did you want me to be impressed that you were chosen? Validation that your skills and knowledge are far superior to those in the vicinity? In reality I ignored the humble brag until the next morning and then glazed over it when I eventually replied.
Humble brags rub people up the wrong way. We have all been on both sides of this situation. We brag because we want to feel valued and important. We value the opinions of others more now in the world of social media than perhaps in the past. In a social setting a humble brag may easily be played off by eye rolls or tuts, but on digital platforms they remain untouched. People don’t often get called out for doing it online. If there is something you are genuinely proud of accomplishing, by all means tell people! Just don’t mask it with a ‘I was just doing my job’ or ‘it was no big deal.’ People can spot a humble bragger from a mile away!