20:00

Today I would like to address the humble brag and all those that use it knowingly and unknowingly.

Yesterday a friend said something along the lines of ‘Oh yeah I got head hunted yesterday but I don’t think I’m going to take the job.’

Firstly, never just drop information like that into a conversation! We were having a conversation about general work happenings from the past couple of weeks, and then that bomb dropped. Do not try and force it into conversation if it doesn’t fit in with the general tone! Your ‘oh yeah’ fake nonchalant attitude is not fooling anyone.

Secondly, it makes you look like an asshole. Seriously. No one is genuinely humble when they’re trying to make themselves look good. If you want to talk about something you’re proud of, be open about it! Do not conceal your bragging with fake humility, people can see through it! Nobody likes a show off.

Thirdly, how important is this information? Not very, right? In this case an employer took an interest in your profile, but you’re not doing anything about it… so your point is? Not to be offensive to said friend but what kind of response did you want me to have? Did you want me to be impressed that you were chosen? Validation that your skills and knowledge are far superior to those in the vicinity? In reality I ignored the humble brag until the next morning and then glazed over it when I eventually replied.

Humble brags rub people up the wrong way. We have all been on both sides of this situation. We brag because we want to feel valued and important. We value the opinions of others more now in the world of social media than perhaps in the past. In a social setting a humble brag may easily be played off by eye rolls or tuts, but on digital platforms they remain untouched. People don’t often get called out for doing it online. If there is something you are genuinely proud of accomplishing, by all means tell people! Just don’t mask it with a ‘I was just doing my job’ or ‘it was no big deal.’ People can spot a humble bragger from a mile away!

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18:38

Ever get that feeling of relief after you realised a tough decision worked out in the end? I just had that moment.

It’s like a wave of comfort washed over me and I absolutely knew in my heart that I made the correct decision back then. Happy days.

16:45

Yesterday I had the chance to catch up over dinner and dessert with a friend who I lost contact with 7 years ago. While we have seen each other in passing often over those 7 years, there was an unwritten rule that we didn’t talk to each other any more. Though there was never any verbal or written confirmation that we were no longer friends all those years ago, we both felt things had grown cold and we fell out of touch. Last night’s dinner with mutual friends allowed us to reconnect a little and to catch up on the little things. Sometimes all that’s needed is the acknowledgement that things are okay though a former friendship disappeared. It shows growth and development from both parties. What happened in the past becomes irrelevant and people are able to move on.

20:36

I am currently reading The Kabul Beauty School by Deborah Rodriguez. Admittedly, this has been a book that I began reading at the start of the year and then left unfinished. Months later I picked it up again, read a couple of chapters and then left it until now.

While I still have a penchant for reading; my leisure time has adjusted to fit in with my working lifestyle. After work I try and exercise, catch up with friends and family, as well as edit video footage and keep up with my current shows. I find myself too tired to read by the time I crawl into bed; which leaves me with a small window on Sundays to catch up on some reading. On Sundays I try and make time to go to a cafe by myself (either to edit or to read). While I do miss more carefree days spent reading book after book, the nostalgic yet reassuring feelings do return when I settle down to read. It really is amazing how books can shape and mold a person through the written word.