22:44

I dislike the negative stigma of doing things by yourself. What is the big deal?

Recently I have had friends and colleagues make comments about how they ‘simply cannot’ do things by themselves. They have stated feelings of being awkward or embarrassed when entering an establishment alone, or even just being seen to be by themselves at an event.

Sometimes the best company is your own. I know that sounds awfully big headed or pompous but it’s true. Sometimes what you need is only granted by your own self, whether that be through your own thoughts, actions or solutions.

I am a big believer in making your own happiness, in fulfilling your own wishes, and being true to yourself. Doing things as an individual helps to build up your self confidence; and your foundation of who you are. Being alone gives you head room to think freely, to live honestly and to treat yourself right.

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23:48

‘There is no final, satisfying way to balance our need to be known with our need to be alone. The balance is always uncertain and provisional; it’s always a matter of dissatisfaction, give-and-take, and sacrifice… It’s up to each of us to balance the risks and rewards – to trade, in right proportion, loneliness for freedom, explicability for mystery, and the knowable for the unknown within ourselves.’

Joshua Rothman – Virginia Woolf’s Idea of Privacy