I have a rule of texting etiquette: when you do not reply to someone within the hour, you apologise and explain the absence.

Okay, fair enough when the person has told me that they will be busy all day (or other reasons), however the people that reply hours later without giving as much as a ‘sorry’, really get on my nerves. It makes me want to not reply to them for a few hours. This sounds rather petty nevertheless it irks me.

What makes these kinds of situations worse is when I can see that the person has checked their messages yet still not replied. Does my interaction with you mean that little? Maybe it is the fact that I am home alone right now that makes people not replying affect me a lot more. Maybe I expect too much from some people.

Also currently craving birthday cake! It has been almost 2 weeks since my birthday and I guess I never stopped hoping that someone would surprise me with one. It’s not really a birthday until there is cake right? High expectations… high expectations… don’t be upset. DON’T be upset.


Messaging through text or any other form of e-interaction is a way of keeping in touch with people who you can’t be physically with at that moment in time. It is a way of communicating and having a conversation while in reality you may be hundreds or thousands of miles apart, even spread through different time zones and continents.

While messaging of this form has its benefits, it also has its downsides. Here are a few issues that I find quite irksome:

  1. One word replies: sometimes there are more than one word, but they don’t add anything to the conversation nor do they keep the chat flowing. Examples would be ‘Ahh I see’ or ‘Okay then’. When people use these on me I feel like I have nothing to say in response, also it means it is up to me to carry on the conversation with a new topic. In all honesty it makes me feel like what I said prior to the one word reply is unimportant or uninteresting to the other party, something not worth a proper reply to. When someone talks to me I reply genuinely, with interest, asking questions where necessary, and most importantly I keep the conversation flowing.
  2. Overuse of any form of laughter: ‘Lol’ is a word I cannot use, I physically loathe it with all of my being and typing it here makes me feel uneasy. The fact that people use it as a conversation filler is ridiculous, no one genuinely laughs all that much. I use ‘haha’ now and again but only in times where I truly find something funny.
  3. Typos: a personal pet peeve. I always correct myself when I type something wrong simply because I need the satisfaction of knowing I spelt it correctly. As someone who pays great attention to detail I feel like even through text chat spelling is crucial.
  4. Lack of personal touch: I’ve always liked the old fashioned way of communicating through letters. There’s something about seeing your own name handwritten on an envelope, unfolding a letter and reading words someone personally took the time to write to you. I know that nowadays letter writing has become lost in amongst the e-mails and Whatsapps and whatever else we use to communicate because it isn’t efficient. Letters can take days (even weeks!) to be delivered while a text can be sent in an instant. There’s something almost romantic about receiving a letter that someone personally wrote to you, something which tells you that you mean more and are worth the time. Holding a mobile phone and reading a heartfelt message through the screen is not the same as holding the handwritten words on a piece of paper.